About this episode Has our devotion to work and hustle become the UnAmerican Dream? Some of the hardest-working people I know are in sales, marketing, consulting, and entrepreneurship. We often hear stories about how hustle, grit, and sacrifice led to success. But there is another side to that story. The constant pursuit of professional success can leave damaged relationships, poor health, anxiety, loneliness, and personal wreckage behind it. I know because I lived some of that story myself. Shortly after building and selling a successful company, my 17-year marriage ended. My pursuit of business success had left my health and relationships in serious need of attention. I had to redefine the kind of life I wanted to live. I had to make different choices. I had to set better boundaries. That is why this conversation with my friend Carlos Hidalgo matters so much to me. Carlos is author of The UnAmerican Dream. In this episode, we talk about entrepreneurship, sales and marketing burnout, family, work devotion, hustle culture, and why Carlos believes work-life boundaries are more useful than work-life balance. This conversation is for sellers, marketers, entrepreneurs, consultants, and leaders who feel pressure to always be on. The question is not whether work matters. The question is whether work has taken a place it was never meant to hold. About Carlos Hidalgo Carlos Hidalgo has worked in B2B marketing, sales, demand generation, and customer experience for more than 25 years. In 2005, he co-founded ANNUITAS, a demand generation agency. He later stepped away from the company and started a new business focused on customer experience, VisumCX. Carlos is the author of Driving Demand and The UnAmerican Dream, a more personal book about redefining success, restoring relationships, and establishing healthier boundaries around work. Connect with Carlos: @cahidalgo on X/TwitterCarlos Hidalgo on LinkedInCarlos Hildalgo CoThe UnAmerican Dream book website Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Carlos Hidalgo 01:08 Why Carlos wrote The UnAmerican Dream 02:56 Why he walked away from the company he co-founded 05:00 What gets in the way of life, liberty, and happiness 07:59 Why Carlos rejects work-life balance 11:01 How to set work-life boundaries 16:47 Why hustle culture is destructive 22:15 Designing your job around the life you want A few things worth taking away Walking away from an unhealthy version of success usually is not a single moment. For Carlos, it was a 10-month process.Work-life balance may be the wrong goal. Balance is fragile. Boundaries are more durable because they protect what you value.Boundaries should not be built alone. Carlos built his with his wife and invited trusted people to help him see what he could not see.If you say you value family, health, faith, friendship, rest, or fitness, your calendar should show it.Hustle culture turns constant availability into identity. That damages people and relationships.Sales and marketing leaders are often overwhelmed because the system rewards being always on.Leaders create pressure even when they do not intend to. A late-night email from a boss can silently tell the team they are expected to respond.People need permission to turn off if you want them to bring their best work.You can design your career, job, or business around the kind of life you want. But first you have to define that life. A few lines that stuck with me “We have made work our God.” — Carlos Hidalgo “I don’t believe in work-life balance.” — Carlos Hidalgo “For me, the idea of boundaries is they are more permanent.” — Carlos Hidalgo “Define what you value, and then say, ‘What are the things that I’m letting get in the way of those things?’” — Carlos Hidalgo “There is a story on the other side of every hustle story.” — Carlos Hidalgo “Life is short. I want to make sure I’m here for it.” — Elle Woulfe, quoted by Carlos Hidalgo Resources mentioned The UnAmerican Dream book websiteThe UnAmerican Dream by Carlos HidalgoCarlos Hidalgo’s LinkedIn post on leaving ANNUITASVisumCXClaire Potter on LinkedInElle Woulfe on LinkedInPathFactoryAlexis Ohanian on hustle porn You may also like New research: Empathy and solving buying problemsGrowing B2B Sales with Trust and EmpathyWhy customer advocacy should be at the heart of your marketing Listen and subscribe If you found this episode helpful, subscribe to the B2B Roundtable Podcast wherever you listen. Full transcript Brian Carroll: Hey Carlos. Really glad to have you here on the show. Can you tell our listeners a little bit about your background? Carlos Hidalgo: Yeah. Hey Brian. Always a pleasure to talk to you. I have been in B2B marketing and sales for over 20 years. I think right now it’s about 25 years, which is hard to believe. I’ve been both client-side, and then in 2005, I co-founded an agency. That agency is still running. I left that agency at the end of 2016, beginning of 2017, to start another ...
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