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The Sacred We

The Sacred We

By: Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren
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A conscious relationship podcast for couples and individuals exploring intimacy, somatic healing, sacred love, and conscious parenting. Hosted by Somatic Therapist & Mystic, Courtney Wren and Relationship Coach, Mike Elliott, Together blends real-life vulnerability with expert tools for growth, connection, and devotion. Deepen trust, navigate parenting, and experience the relationship you’ve always dreamed of.Michael Elliott and Courtney Wren Relationships Social Sciences
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  • Your Relationship Is Your Child's First Love Story - How Your Relationship Affects Your Children

    Your Relationship Is Your Child's First Love Story - How Your Relationship Affects Your Children
    Jun 25 2026
    Want to turn moments of conflict into opportunities for intimacy? 👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredweYour children are not just watching you. They are becoming you.This is not a conversation about perfect parenting. It's a conversation about the invisible field that lives between you and your partner -- and how that field is shaping your children's nervous systems, their sense of safety, their capacity for love, and the relationships they will one day choose.If you are a parent -- or want to be one -- this episode will change how you see your relationship forever.3 Key Points Covered:Your relationship becomes your child's nervous system -- The coherence (or incoherence) between you and your partner becomes the nest within which your child develops. Their sense of safety, their regulation, their capacity to stay connected through difficulty -- all of it is shaped by the relational field you hold together.Your wounds become their blueprint -- Mike shares his own story of being adopted twice in the first 14 months of his life and the abandonment wounding that followed him -- and how, without awareness, that blueprint was handed directly to Cedar. The patterns we haven't healed become the patterns our children inherit.How you treat your partner is how your child will treat themselves and their future partners -- From Cedar saying "I'm so stupid" after hearing it used around him, to mirroring a parent's shutdown behaviour during conflict, our children are always watching. What we model becomes their normal.You'll Also Hear:The story of Cedar's injuries -- including the ambulance call -- and what Mike and Courtney realized about the direct link to their disconnectionMike's personal history with adoption, abandonment wounding, and how he unknowingly handed his blueprint to his sonWhat toxic fighting wires children to believe about love and connection -- and why they may grow up feeling that intimacy is dangerousHow to navigate co-parenting with honor and respect even when things aren't amicable -- and why talking badly about your partner in front of your child fragments them internallyThe constellation practice of gratitude that Courtney has been bringing to their relationship: "Thank you for making me a mama"The most powerful closing line of the episode: "How you tend the shared nervous system of your family is the love story your children will live"Go Deeper With Mike & Courtney:The Initiated Man -- Mike's online men's community for men who are ready to break the patterns they've inherited and become the embodied, connected fathers and partners they know they can be.🏹Join the Initiated Man →https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/TIMCouples Work with Mike & Courtney -- Private 2:2 intensive containers for couples who are ready to rewrite the blueprint -- for themselves, and for the next generation.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 →https://www.sacredrelating.com/2-2-container-detailsWork with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.relating
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    43 mins
  • Cracking The Male Code - How To Get Your Husband To Open His Heart

    Cracking The Male Code - How To Get Your Husband To Open His Heart
    Jun 18 2026
    Want to turn moments of conflict into opportunities for intimacy? 👉Sign up for a FREE guide to 3 Somatic Practices for Deeper Connection HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/deeperconnectionYou want him to open up. He wants to open up. So why isn't it working?In this episode of The Sacred We, Mike and Courtney Elliott go deep into one of the most painful and confusing dynamics in modern relationships: the woman who desperately wants to feel her man, and the man who desperately wants to let her in—but can't. Not because he doesn't care. Not because he's broken. But because no one ever gave him the map.Mike draws on over a decade of sitting in men's circles, coaching men in deep six-month containers, and his own lived journey of trying to open—and failing, until he finally understood why. Courtney brings her perspective as a longtime therapist who thought she understood men, until working alongside Mike revealed a world she had never been taught to see.What unfolds is a conversation that will change how you see the men in your life—and yourself.3 Keys Covered in This Episode:Emotional Inspection vs. Safe Harbor — Why questions like 'Are you okay?' trigger a man's defense system, and what to say insteadDecoding the Silence — What his silence actually means (it's not what you think)—and how to hold space that finally lets him arriveThe Secret Currency: Respect Precedes Vulnerability — Why criticism and correction—even when valid—will never open a man's heart, and what actually turns his health back onYou'll Also Hear:Why do most men read 'What's wrong?" as a performance review—and go into fight-or-flightThe cultural wounding that taught boys that vulnerability equals weaknessMike's story of reading hundreds of books trying to open up—and why none of it worked until he had the right relational containerCourtney's grief around the ways she unknowingly hurt men—and what that moment of honesty opened in MikeWhy men are more neurologically sensitive than we think—and what that means for how we approach themThe "relational deposit" practice that brings a collapsed man back into his strength👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 →https://www.sacredrelating.com/2-2-container-detailsWork with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man →https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/TIM💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.relatingLoved This Episode?Leave us a 5-star review. Share it with a woman who loves a man she wants to understand better—or a man who's been trying and doesn't know why it's not landing. Tag us at: @MikeElliott.Relating | @courtneywren.relating
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    53 mins
  • From Dismissed and Invisible to Heard and Seen

    From Dismissed and Invisible to Heard and Seen
    Jun 4 2026
    Curious about our new Masterclass? 👉Sign up for Seen & Heard a Sacred We deep dive: https://www.sacredrelating.com/Heard&SeenIf something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with CourtneyWhat happens inside your body when you don’t feel heard? Your nervous system reads it as danger. Your defenses go up. And the very person you love becomes someone you can’t quite reach.In this episode of The Sacred We, Mike and Courtney go deep into one of the most fundamental wounds in a relationship: the pain of feeling dismissed and invisible. They open with a raw, real story from their own week—Courtney asking to be met with more touch and warmth during a busy, full season, and Mike sharing his moment in the kitchen where he chose to move toward her, slowly and intentionally, hand on her heart, meeting her eyes. What unfolded was alchemy.This isn’t just a love story. It’s a masterclass in the nervous system, attachment, and the sacred practice of learning to truly see each other.Why being heard and seen is a biological need, not just an emotional preferenceWhat your nervous system does when it doesn’t feel safe enough to receive loveThe surprising truth about why your partner may not be withholding—they literally can’t hear youHow to deliver what you need to be heard in a way that actually landsDan Siegel’s integration framework and why relational attunement is the missing ingredientBONUS: The one thing you can do to cut through your partner’s defenses instantly—even mid-conflictNeuro-ception and why the nervous system scans for safety before it can open to loveCuriosity as a relational practice in triggered momentsThe difference between authenticity and relational attunement—and why you need bothWhen you’re not hearing each other vs. when you literally can’t receiveThe Heard & Seen Framework—practiced live in a real storyHeard & Seen Masterclass — Sunday, June 7th, 6–7:30pm PST | $97 | For couples and individuals calling in sacred partnership. Teaching, Q&A, and somatic practice. Recording available.Mapping Your Relational Imprint — Courtney’s 1:1 private container for deep individual somatic and attachment work. Uncover the blueprint driving your patterns in love.Couples Work with Mike & Courtney — Private 2:2 intensive containers for couples ready to do the deep work together with full support.👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/2-2-container-detailsWork with Mike → ⁠https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching⁠Work with Courtney → ⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth⁠📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast⁠🏹Join the Initiated Man →https://www.skool.com/theinitiatedman💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →⁠https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlist⁠Email:⁠⁠transform@itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠relating@courtneywren.com⁠Website:⁠⁠⁠www.itsmikeelliott.com⁠⁠⁠⁠www.sacredrelating.com⁠⁠www.courtneywren.com⁠Instagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.relatingShare it with someone who needs to hear this. Leave us a 5-star review and tell us what landed for you. Send us a DM we love hearing from you.
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    30 mins
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