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Self-Led Besties!

Self-Led Besties!

By: Christine Dixon Hallie Shapiro & David Hilton
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Welcome to the pod, besties! You’ll find us chatting about all things Self-Leadership, parts, self-compassion, nonviolent communication & so much more. Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
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  • S1 E10 | Three Babbling Brooks
    Jun 7 2026

    As a special treat for the Season One Finale of The Self Led Besties Podcast...we decided to be on camera (on the YouTube version at least)!!!

    Whenever Hallie and Christine would have "babbling parts," David would graciously call them "babbling brooks," so we decided to call this episode "Three Babbling Brooks."

    David begins by telling about what has been alive in him lately - pondering the nature of vulnerable, wounded parts and the various layers around them. From there, we talk about how wounding happens from the inside out and healing occurs as Self brings loving attention to all the layers from the outside in.

    As Hallie says, "We've been on the Needs Bus lately," so of course we also bring in how unmet needs relate to wounds and burdened parts. Join us in this silly and serious discussion, and as always, please share any questions or resonance in the comments section below.

    0:02 Introduction and Season Finale Announcement
    0:42 Theme Song and Lip Sync
    2:51 Discussion on Authenticity and Voice Messages
    4:10 David's Introduction to Wounding and Healing
    5:20 Emotional Beliefs and Protective Parts
    7:44 Healing Process and Self-Energy
    10:26 Visual and Somatic Components in Healing
    13:41 Christine and Hallie's Observations on Protective Parts
    16:32 Self-Energy and Integration
    34:38 Exploring Needs and Burdening
    39:18 Healing and Meeting Needs
    54:28 Personal Reflections on the Season
    61:29 Upcoming Projects and Workshops

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • S1 E9 | Activity: Wheel of Needs
    May 24 2026

    In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine through a beautiful exercise piggy backing off of the needs exercise from last episode (though this can also be used as a stand alone exercise).

    Hallie explains why it so important to connect to our needs and how the world might be a more supportive place to live if we all valued needs.

    Then, after a short "coming into presence" moment, Hallie guides us (and you) through rating each of the needs based first on our body compass then letting parts express whatever comes up for them.

    After getting an overall rating for how well our nine universal needs are met in this chapter of our lives, Hallie guides us in exploring how our highest and lowest rated needs could be met by Self, Support (from another person), and the Strategies our parts use to get Supply.

    This exercise has the potential to bring so much clarity, compassion, and creativity into our systems. Please feel free to follow along or just listen, and we'd love to hear how the exercise was for you in the comment section below.

    0:00 Intro
    0:10 Theme Song
    0:36 Exercise Introduction
    1:48 Exercise Overview
    3:58 Coming Into Presence
    7:28 The 9 Universal Human Needs
    15:35 The Wheel Of Needs
    20:11 Rating Our Needs
    22:02 The Need for Safety
    24:59 The Need for Sustenance
    26:50 The Need For Rest
    29:22 The Need For Love
    30:49 The Need For Understanding
    32:32 The Need For Belonging
    35:03 The Need For Purpose
    36:46 The Need For Creativity
    39:19 The Need For Freedom
    41:36 Calculating Our Needs Percentage
    44:00 Percentage Indicators
    46:38 Strategy Overview
    52:40 The Importance Of Authenticity
    57:24 Lowest & Highest Scores
    58:41 Highest Scoring Need
    59:53 Highest Score Strategies
    1:01:31 Lowest Scoring Need
    1:02:16 Lowest Score Strategies
    1:04:21 New Strategies For Lowest Score?
    1:08:13 Invitation To Further Exploration
    1:11:02 Christine's Experience
    1:23:52 David's Experience
    1:30:21 Closing & Goodbyes
    1:32:00 Theme Song
    1:33:03 Like & Subscribe

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    1 hr and 33 mins
  • S1 E8 | Activity: Are My Needs Met?
    May 10 2026

    In this episode, Christine shares a Needs-Based Protocol she's been working on. David and Hallie experiment with what emotions feel like in their bodies and how their emotions can be valuable messengers pointing to unmet needs.

    Then, Christine leads Hallie and David in an exercise to assess a relationship, environment, or activity by scoring how well they support each of the 9 Universal Human Needs. Then we discuss brainstorming creative strategies to meet those needs ourselves as well as specific requests to make of others.

    We welcome you to follow along in these experiments and offer feedback or questions in the comments. As we develop this protocol, your input is highly valuable.

    0:00 Intro
    0:10 Theme Song
    0:37 Exercise Overview
    4:45 Noticing Emotions
    9:06 The Level Of Suffering
    12:30 David's Emotions
    15:21 Hallie's Emotions
    18:47 The Nine Human Needs
    23:29 David's Unmet Needs
    25:04 Hallie's Unmet Needs
    26:30 Meeting Our Needs
    30:29 How Emotions Relate To Needs
    35:34 Partner, Place Or Profession?
    40:40 Rating Needs Being Met
    44:50 High, Medium & Low Scores
    50:05 Personally Meeting Our Needs
    50:45 Specific Request Of Another Person
    52:08 Creating Distance
    53:30 Strategy Examples
    1:02:34 Outro & Goodbyes
    1:04:12 Theme Song
    1:05:16 Like & Subscribe

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    1 hr and 5 mins
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