What if the strongest person in the room is suffering in silence?

What if the woman everyone admires… the executive, the leader, the calm one, the capable one… is privately losing herself piece by piece behind closed doors?

What if abuse doesn’t look like bruises, chaos, or screaming… but control, confusion, self-doubt, and a slow erosion of identity?

Today on Let’s Get Selfish, we step into a conversation that too many people need—and too few are having.

Our guest was a Director at Microsoft. MBA educated. High-achieving. Respected. Composed under pressure.

And while the outside world saw success, behind the scenes she was living inside a marriage shaped by coercive control, gaslighting, financial abuse, and isolation.

In this powerful episode, we talk about identity, survival, the different stages of a woman’s life, how trauma can hide in plain sight, and why not everything is what it appears to be from the outside.

We also dive into her deeply moving book, The Truth She Showed Me—a story of losing yourself so gradually you don’t notice… and what it truly takes to come back stronger, wiser, and impossible to shrink again.

This is not just a story. It’s truth, healing, and a wake-up call.

Let’s get into it.

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🔗 Connect with Christine Dillard & learn more about her story:

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christinedillard
TikTok / Instagram: @TheTruthSheShowedMe

📘 The Truth She Showed Me: Choosing Freedom When the Cost of Staying Is You – Available now on Amazon Kindle.

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🎙️ Let’s Get Selfish Presents:
The Metaphorical Bucket | Why You Can’t Keep Pouring From Empty

What if the most important investment you make this year… is in yourself?

In this powerful episode, Bryan White reads one of the most impactful chapters from his book Get Selfish: Filling Your Bucket First — The Metaphorical Bucket.

So many of us spend our lives giving everything we have to everyone else… our time, energy, love, patience, and effort… while quietly running ourselves into the ground. We keep pouring from our bucket until there is nothing left.

But what happens when your bucket becomes cracked, muddy, heavy, neglected, or completely empty?

In this raw and honest chapter, Bryan explores the emotional toll of burnout, people-pleasing, unresolved trauma, chronic stress, and losing connection with yourself. He breaks down how many people survive on temporary fixes, band-aids, and distractions while ignoring the deeper truth:

You cannot continue to pour into others when you have abandoned yourself.

This episode is about awareness, healing, boundaries, rebuilding your energy, and choosing a new path. It’s about recognizing when life has drained you dry — and deciding today is the day you refill what was always yours.

🔥 If you’ve been feeling exhausted, disconnected, overwhelmed, resentful, or stuck… this episode may be exactly what you need.

📖 Grab your copy of Get Selfish: Filling Your Bucket First
Book → amazon.com/dp/B0FMQGK9F7

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Joyfully Selfish: How an Ex-Engineer Ditched the Grind and Learned to Fill Her Own Bucket First - W/ Angela Jamieson

What if the secret to a truly fulfilling life isn’t working harder or doing more… but finally giving yourself permission to put YOU first — without guilt, without apology, and with total joy?

In this powerful episode of Let’s Get Selfish, host Bryan White sits down with Angela Jamieson — ex-engineer, former COO, international consultant, speaker, and bestselling author. After building the “perfect” life on paper while raising young kids and caring for her ill father, Angela lost her dad and questioned everything. That wake-up call led her to create Relaxed Productivity — a practical, engineering-backed methodology that blends logic, science, presence, and real-life balance.

Now, almost two years into her thriving online course and membership, Angela teaches high-achievers how to stop the endless hustle and start living with more ease, clarity, and fulfillment. She’s the author of the shockingly insightful self-help book Using No. 2 to Get to No. 1: The Shockingly Insightful, Full-of-Crap Self-Help Book.

Angela’s core message? Being selfish — when done joyfully — is the greatest gift you can give the world. When you fill your own bucket first, everyone around you benefits.

This conversation is raw, practical, funny, and perfect for anyone who’s ever felt burned out, stuck in Groundhog Day, or ready to redesign life on their own terms.

What you might take away:

How to apply an engineer’s mindset to personal development and productivity

The real difference between toxic hustle and joyful, relaxed productivity

Why “selfish” is actually the most generous thing you can do

Practical tools to stop people-pleasing and start living fully present

Connect with Angela Jamieson

Website & Relaxed Productivity Membership: https://www.angelajamieson.com

Buy her book Using No. 2 to Get to No. 1: https://mybook.to/2to1book

Relaxed Productivity Membership Funnel: https://www.angelajamieson.com/rpmfunnel

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/angejamieson

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61560469774011

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/angelajamiesonfung

If this episode resonated, do two things right now:

Grab Angela’s book Using No. 2 to Get to No. 1 and start your own journey to joyful selfishness.

Share this episode with a friend, colleague, or anyone who’s been running on empty — because when podcasts become conversations, the ripples go further than we’ll ever know.