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ADHD and The Cognitive Load

ADHD and The Cognitive Load

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 How the BBC comedy Motherland explains cognitive load, why our home life can be more draining than work - plus what to do about it.If you've ever watched Motherland and found yourself wincing as much as laughing, this episode is for you. The BBC comedy lands so hard because it shines a painfully bright light on the cognitive load of running a household — and that load hits ADHD brains particularly hard.This isn't really about being a mother. It's about being the "default human" in a household: the one anticipating, monitoring, planning, remembering, and quietly absorbing everyone else's needs alongside your own. Whether you have children or not, if you're the strategic ops manager of your home, this one's for you.What we coverWhy Motherland feels so accurate (and so uncomfortable) for ADHD viewersThe difference between cognitive load and emotional load, and why both matterHow working memory challenges in ADHD turn everyday domestic admin into forefront effortIntrinsic vs extraneous cognitive load — and why your home environment may be making things harder than they need to beThe neuroscience of acute stress: why you genuinely can't think clearly at 9pm on a bad TuesdayAllostatic load: the long-term physiological cost of chronic stress, and why it's distinct from burnout-as-feelingWhy ADHD adults are more likely to carry decades of accumulated stress before diagnosisThree practical principles for redesigning your home operating system: externalise everything, reduce decisions at high-friction moments, and protect transition timeKey ideaYour job is not to become someone who can hold ten threads in their head every day forever. Your job is to design a home operating system that does that work for you.Mentioned in this episodePrevious episode: The Novelty Trap (on holding things in your head and prospective memory)Motherland (BBC) — created by Sharon Horgan, Holly Walsh, Graham Linehan, Helen LinehanConcept: the "default human" in a householdThe CAPACITY Framework (my coaching methodology)References - please see full notes on episode page here.A correction: In the episode I said working memory challenges in ADHD are "particularly verbal." That's the wrong way round. Martinussen et al. (2005) actually found spatial working memory is more affected than verbal in children with ADHD — spatial tasks like remembering where things are, holding mental maps, or tracking layouts. Verbal working memory is also affected, just less dramatically. In adults, Alderson et al. (2013) found both are impaired. The everyday point still stands: holding instructions, sequences, and prompts in your head is genuinely harder with ADHD. I just got the dominant channel backwards. ADHD brain doing ADHD things.Work with meI work one-to-one with late-diagnosed ADHD professionals on the environment, emotions, and cognitive aspects of ADHD — designing systems that fit your life, not someone else's manual. Later this year I'm opening a small group programme grounded in my framework, where you do the work in real time rather than sitting through long group calls.Find me at lightbulbadhd.com or on Instagram @adhd_coach_katherine.A reminderThis is a coaching and educational podcast, not medical advice. I'm a certified ADHD coach, not a therapist, doctor, or counsellor. If you're in crisis, you need therapy or counselling, not coaching.
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