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How to Set Boundaries, Say No Without Feeling Guilty, Protect Your Time and Finally Experience Inner Peace

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By: Trilby Grundy
Narrated by: Sabrina Pellerito
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If you’re exhausted from being everyone’s Plan A, emotional support hotline, unpaid therapist, and the one who always “just gets it done”—this book is for you.

Stop Being So Damn Available is a smart, funny, gloriously rebellious self-help guide for women (and recovering people-pleasers) done living on everyone else’s terms. It’s not about becoming cold—it’s about becoming clear. Not about disappearing—but choosing when to show up, and when to sit down.

Inside, you’ll learn how to stop people pleasing:

  • Set clear, guilt-free boundaries—and stick to them.
  • Say no with confidence—without spiraling into apologies.
  • Break the cycle of burnout—stop being everyone's emotional first responder.
  • Ditch the guilt that keeps you overcommitted.
  • Stop second-guessing your decisions—gain clarity and calm.
  • Feel respected, not taken for granted—because when you value your time, others do too.
  • Take up space without apology—make confidence your new default.

Plus, uncover powerful tools: 1 boundary that transforms all your relationships. 2 guilt-shattering phrases for when people push back. 3 mindset shifts to reclaim your space and stop apologizing for existing.

Whether you're deep in burnout, navigating friendship fatigue, managing family demands, or simply ready to reclaim your peace, this book is your permission slip to stop pleasing everyone else and start pleasing yourself.

This isn’t just another self-help cliché—it’s your reset guide: funny, honest, practical, and real. You don’t need another planner, productivity hack, or gold star for exhaustion. You need boundaries. With backbone.

Say it with me: “I’m not available.” And mean it.

©2025 Trilby Grundy (P)2025 Trilby Grundy
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This book hit me right where I needed it. Trilby's approach to boundaries feels refreshingly honest without the usual guilt trip. The narrator does a great job bringing the concepts to life. Some sections felt repetitive, but the core message is solid. Perfect for recovering people-pleasers like me.

Finally, permission to say no

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Short but powerful three hours of listening, I am a bit old for this now, but I can give this book as a gift to a good half dozen of young ladies I know.

Recommended to young daughters

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This book hit me right where I needed it. For years, I’ve been the person who always says yes — to extra work, to family demands, to friends who take advantage of my time. I picked this up hoping for practical advice, and it delivered.

The writing is direct, funny, and no-nonsense, which I loved. The author doesn’t just tell you why boundaries matter, but shows you how to set them without drowning in guilt. The step-by-step strategies for saying no, protecting my time, and actually meaning it were easy to put into practice.

What stood out most is the balance: it’s not about shutting people out or becoming cold — it’s about showing up for yourself first, so you can be present when you choose to. That shift has already made a huge difference in my life.

If you struggle with overcommitting, feeling resentful, or constantly putting yourself last, this book is worth every penny. It’s practical, empowering, and exactly the reminder I needed that my time is valuable too.

A Game-Changer for People-Pleasers

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The book explores the reality of someone who is always available to others, whether it is in their best interest or it is costing them more than necessary. The topics are very well-thought-out within the chapters, but there was some overemphasis on certain things. The narrator did a great job making it articulate and clear. Enjoyable listen.

So True...

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This is a wonderful audiobook that has so many awesome tips and guidance. The narrator does a good job and reads this in a positive way which keeps you interested throughout. There are some polite ways to draw boundaries and protect your time/space which I really appreciated. Very good overall!!

Super helpful!

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